Loretta, I believe that there are many out there that are suffering just like you and your family and that have those same 'type' of competitors lurking, just waiting for a moment to pounce. I know that my heart went out to you, when I first read your post. This is a difficult time for many; I know you will hang in there and that you will come out on the other side, better for having the experience and surviving it. I cannot remember who said this, but it goes something like moments in time do not define us, it is what we do in those moments that determine the ultimate outcome.

   Also, I must agree with many of the other opinions about competitors who behave like that when someone is down and hurting. They will reap the ultimate reward for that behavior.